Don't you think it is weird that even though we have months to get used to the idea we are still so shocked when they arrive. Many women would do anything to get the baby out, but the minute it comes out the fear arrives and we spend the rest of the time wishing that we could put them back in so that they are safe and we can protect them from the horror of the world we have brought them into. Being a parent is just one long string of worry, we worry that they have all their bits in the right place, then we worry that we will be able to look after them, that they will grow properly, that we are feeding them enough, they are getting enough sleep and don't get me started on the fears when they are away from you. I can only surmise that it gets easier as my own parents seem to have coped with all the madness that I have brought down on them.
I know that all this worry is so stupid and irrational, if something happens we will deal with it and I know I can't ward bad things off by imagining them. The thing is that we are just used to pleasing ourselves and if we stuff up then we only have ourselves to blame. But now we are responsible for a new life and want to avoid them having years of therapy in adulthood complaining about how their parents ruined their lives.
It's the parents I blame! That's a statement you hear often but isn't it the case that most parents are just trying to do the best they know how and are simply praying that it is enough to keep their kids out of harms way. Nobody wants to bring up a thug do they? The whole bloody thing seems like a minefield and everybody has an opinion on what you should do, I am starting to wish I had been one of those modern women who stays childless, has a wonderful life and is genuinely happy without children!
I know that all this worry is so stupid and irrational, if something happens we will deal with it and I know I can't ward bad things off by imagining them. The thing is that we are just used to pleasing ourselves and if we stuff up then we only have ourselves to blame. But now we are responsible for a new life and want to avoid them having years of therapy in adulthood complaining about how their parents ruined their lives.
It's the parents I blame! That's a statement you hear often but isn't it the case that most parents are just trying to do the best they know how and are simply praying that it is enough to keep their kids out of harms way. Nobody wants to bring up a thug do they? The whole bloody thing seems like a minefield and everybody has an opinion on what you should do, I am starting to wish I had been one of those modern women who stays childless, has a wonderful life and is genuinely happy without children!
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